For some, it can feel as though a caesarean is not the birthing experience we planned. Modern medicine has helped make abdominal birth safer. But there can still be a physical and emotional trauma that comes with this kind of birth.
We wanted to highlight some of these stories and hope this helps bring light to the experience of c-section deliveries, whether they’re planned or performed in an emergency. Let this be a kind reminder that there is no shame in not giving birth the ‘natural’ way.
Sharing these stories means we’re able to reduce any unnecessary stigma around abdominal births and show each other that c-sections can be positive for both parent and baby.
Be proud of your birthing experience. After all, it’s how you got your little one here.
For Jenny.hicks1989, giving birth to her second daughter via caesarean section saved both their lives. She’s grateful for modern medicine and is adamant that whatever route babies take to get here, the safest route is the main thing. We’re inclined to agree.
Nicola.payne.923 had a c-section after a 30 hour labour but felt like her body had failed her. Pressure to do things ‘the natural way’ meant she forced herself to try really hard at breastfeeding, even when mastitis and an abscess were making it difficult.
After driving herself to the hospital, cpritchard14 also had an abdominal birth due to undiagnosed preeclampsia. She had therapy to come to terms with the way her daughter was born, but still struggles to say she ‘gave birth’.
Mrssep16 is proud that both her babies were born by caesarean and agrees that we really need to change the narrative around this birthing experience. The best way to do this? Keep talking about it. ‘Normalise’ an experience which is necessary, essential, life-saving, sanity-preserving and a totally valid way to bring a human into the world.
Pre-eclampsia caused Kewatkinson to need emergency c-sections. She holds no guilt or disappointment for not doing it ‘properly’. Abdominal birth saved her life and that of her girls.
For laconnolly19, pride is the overriding feeling when it comes to their experience of abdominal birth.
Kimkerr86‘s c-sections were planned. She calls on other parents to say loud and proud that they gave birth. As far as she’s concerned, no birth is the easy way out. Every birth is as individual as the parent and the child. YES! PREACH IT!
‘Whichever way you brought your child into this world, you are amazing’. We couldn’t agree with redgoldielocks more. It was a traumatic birth that meant she needed a caesarean, but she found that part the most positive of the whole experience. She adds if you’re looking for a reminder of why you gave birth the way you did, look at your baby and see them growing, thriving and smiling.
Spannamcguiggly had planned c-sections. Her only struggle has been dealing with comments from others that she will never know what labour is like (a reminder to us all to be careful with our words). But she’s found beauty in the experience by being able to show her children her scars and explain that’s where they came from.
For s0shell it’s about normalising all types of birthing experience. We have options and we’re lucky enough to be able to make sure both mum and baby are safe and healthy. That’s pretty cool and should always be the focus of these conversations.
End the stigma
Giving birth and welcoming a new baby into the world is overwhelming and complex enough without us adding another layer of guilt over how we do it into the mix. There’s enough parenting guilt in the world. We’re too tired to keep this up. It’s time we stamp out any stigma related to abdominal births once and for all.
Birth is birth – it’s beautiful, messy and bloody hard, however it happens. Those who do it should be celebrated not berated in any way.
If you want to share your experience of abdominal birth to help us keep talking about this topic, send us your Will Talk story.